Who & What Can You Trust? || The Three Markers

Its safe to say that we have all questioned something or someone over whether that source is really true. There is a constant influx of information and opinions that have us wondering if we can truly trust their credibility.

Many (if not all) days in a week,  I find myself doubting if I can really trust in what has been said or what has happened. As I look at the news, scroll through my feed, or even speaking with people around me, there are opposing points made about similar topics or trends. It is no wonder many of us are left totally confused over what or who to trust in this world.

On a more deeper level, trust is a valuable commodity in any friendship or relationship with another person. The meaning of trust defines that we can rely on someone, which is important when it comes to other people in our lives. Though there will be times when you are struggling to place trust in someone, and it can strike fear into you as this becomes a risky decision to make. Placing your trust into somebody is like offering them a piece of your heart, as you are acknowledging to them that you believe in them, what they do and what they say.

Following whatever you are told or see just as it appears to be something that is in your best interests, desires, or goals is not going to yield the most positive outcomes. Instead, I encourage you to look over three elements to trust that I came across in a TED Talk video last week. Frances Frei explained the component parts of trust and how they work together to create trust. When all three work in harmony trust is functioning well and you will feel content, comfortable and secure in placing that trust somewhere. They are what I like to call the ‘trust triad’;

Authenticity – Empathy – Logic

If one or more of these components start to wobble then trust becomes damaged and could even break down. To prevent your trust being misplaced take on board what each part of trust equates to before offering trust to something or someone.


Authenticity is a genuine source that has not been tampered with to elude away the truth. So for something to be authentic means that it is based on real facts, with the right intentions, . For human beings, being authentic is to be exactly who we are without attempting to prevail from our true self.

Empathy almost ties in with authenticity, although empathy is where someone is able to connect with someone else through the understanding and sharing of their feelings. When intentions are met in this way, you will be more likely to place trust as your feelings are being met by another source or person. If your being understood, listened to and responded to with your needs and desires as a priority then you are being met with compassion. However, if none of those ways of communication are being met in your best interest, then it is time to re-evaluate.

Logic speaks for itself. If something is logical then it can be supported by reason or facts. To solidify what is being proposed or said for you to place trust in it, checking its logical validity can be of paramount importance. To gain evidence of logic is clarifying that this is realistic, achievable, and believable. Without any acknowledgment of facts or reason, there will be a shortfall in the level of trust that is ought to have. It is for peace of mind if anything else.


Though above all of these elements to trust, you must first trust yourself. Your own instincts will pick up on a lot of these things mentioned, as you are fully aware of what you need and want more than anything or anyone else. Getting to know who you really are and trusting in who that person is, you are more likely to think, act, and believe in what is in your favour.


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