If you have asked me 2 years ago that I would be working as a personal trainer who is self-employed, running a health and fitness blog but most importantly recovered from an eating disorder, maintaining a balanced lifestyle with my food and exercise, I would have quite frankly told you where to stuff it!
Yet here I am, making a life for myself, exploring the world independently, meeting new faces, making new friends, building a business. experiencing everything with no barriers. I give my body the nutrients it needs, move my body to keep it healthy and allow myself time to unwind, relax and enjoy my favourite things.
There is no doubt that it is thanks to improving my relationship with myself that I have become the person I am today.
It is this love, pride and self-confidence that inspired me to choose this career path to the one I originally thought I was meant for. When in fact, life had other plans and I believe this is what I was brought here to do – help others to find their self-confidence, love themselves for who they truly are and care for their body and soul.
The reason I am sharing this with you, is because I truly believe that we can all develop self-confidence. It is built inside you, waiting to be discovered, but you fear that it is not enough. You doubt your abilities to succeed at anything because you constantly pick at the fault amongst your stars.
After barely existing for over 5 years entrenched in an eating disorder, I know all too well how much bad experiences can take over, turning into traumatic thoughts that consume the mind everyday. They fill the world with so much terrible things that there feels as though there is no point in putting up a fight. But only until I was truly ready to recover did I begin to finally comprehend what I needed to focus on.
The battle you face is not with the world but the world within yourself.
By looking deeper into who I truly am, the journey to becoming more self-confident had finally begun. Finding out how my personality can be effected by certain situations, experiences and emotions, why I fear letting go of control, taking a risk and learning to trust that I am enough to get me where I dream of being, has all allowed me to understand my unique position, and how crucially important it is that I care for myself unconditionally.
The only person who will ever know you the best is yourself, it is a relationship unlike any other you could ever have. But it is one so often neglected.
Comparison and pressure to live, look, eat, and act ‘perfect’ at all times is in our everyday lives, from social media, to the television, to magazines, to your environment, so it is no wonder more people than ever before identify as having a lack of self-confidence in themselves.
Being in the fitness industry, I do feel the pressure to look and live a certain way. Yet, I l have my days where I don’t want to work out (and so I don’t), I have one too many squares of chocolate. I am not ‘shredded’ or the strongest female I know of, I am far from perfect. I am not where my mind tells me is the ‘ideal’ way to look, but that doesn’t make me who I am – I do.
There is no-one else like you, there never will be. You have been given a unique opportunity to show the world what you are capable of. Embrace your flaws, use your strengths to empower your belief within that you can do anything you set your mind to.
It is probably one of the hardest things I have had to do, but will definitely be one of the best things I will ever do. To listen to my body and my soul, following them to take me away from the negative habits, thoughts and beliefs, brings rewards that enrich my life.
Confidence is key to unlocking your future and that key can be found in you.